14 JUL 2025 by ideonexus
Breaking out of Symbology
A monk asked Ts'ui-wei, "For what reason did the First Patriarch come from the West?"
Ts'ui-wei answered, "Pass me that chin-rest."
As soon as the monk passed it, Ts'ui-wei hit him with it.
Another master was having tea with two of his students when he suddenly tossed his fan to one of them, saying, "What's this?"
The student opened it and fanned himself. "Not bad," was his comment. "Now you," he went on, passing it to the other student, who at once closed the fan and scratched his neck w...Folksonomies: zen
Folksonomies: zen
14 JUL 2025 by ideonexus
Greed is Less Destructive Than Fanaticism
It was a basic Confucian principle that "it is man who makes truth great, not truth which makes man great." For this reason, "humanness" or ''human-heartedness" ( fen a ) was always felt to be superior to "righteousness" ( i b ), since man himself is greater than any idea which he may invent. There are times when men's passions are much more trustworthy than their principles. Since opposed principles, or ideologies, are irreconcilable, wars fought over principle will be wars of mutual annihil...Folksonomies: zen
Folksonomies: zen
06 MAY 2025 by ideonexus
Our Historical Selves Become More Defining Than Our Prese...
...it is easy to see the conventional character of roles. For a man who is a father may also be a doctor and an artist, as well as an employee and a brother. And it is obvious that even the sum total of these role labels will be far from supplying an adequate description of the man himself, even though it may place him in certain general classifications. But the conventions which govern human identity are more subtle and much less obvious than these. We learn, very thoroughly though far less ...Folksonomies: mindfulness zen
Folksonomies: mindfulness zen
06 MAY 2025 by ideonexus
Be a Leader
A leader’s job often includes changing your people’s attitudes and behavior. Some suggestions to accomplish this:
PRINCIPLE 1
Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
PRINCIPLE 2
Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
PRINCIPLE 3
Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
PRINCIPLE 4
Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
PRINCIPLE 5
Let the other person save face.
PRINCIPLE 6
Praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement. Be ...06 MAY 2025 by ideonexus
How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking
PRINCIPLE 1
The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
PRINCIPLE 2
Show respect for the other person's opinions. Never say, "You're wrong."
PRINCIPLE 3
If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.
PRINCIPLE 4
Begin in a friendly way.
PRINCIPLE 5
Get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately.
PRINCIPLE 6
Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
PRINCIPLE 7
Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.
PRINCIPLE 8
Try honestly to see thing...05 MAY 2025 by ideonexus
Six Ways to Make People Like You
PRINCIPLE 1
Become genuinely interested in other people.
PRINCIPLE 2
Smile.
PRINCIPLE 3
Remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
PRINCIPLE 4
Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
PRINCIPLE 5
Talk in terms of the other person’s interests.
PRINCIPLE 6
Make the other person feel important—and do it sincerely.Folksonomies: socialization manners
Folksonomies: socialization manners
15 APR 2025 by ideonexus
10 Rules to Not Being Offended
If any have offended against thee, consider first: What is my relation to men, and that we are made for one another; and in another respect, I was made to be set over them, as a ram over the flock or a bull over the herd. But examine the matter from first principles, from this: If all things are not mere atoms, it is nature which orders all things: if this is so, the inferior things exist for the sake of the superior, and these for the sake of one another.
Second, consider what kind of men t...Folksonomies: mindfulness stoicism
Folksonomies: mindfulness stoicism
13 APR 2025 by ideonexus
"Having" Mode and "Being" Mode
The American essayist and biographer Agnes Repplier saw leisure as necessary for the completion not just of individuals but of civilizations. Leisure, she noted, “has a distinct and honorable place wherever nations are released from the pressure of their first rude needs, their first homely toil, and the rise of happier levels of grace and intellectual repose.” She believed that every investment and allowance should be made to support a leisure class—a fortunati—not so that its member...13 APR 2025 by ideonexus
The Culture that Create Abundance has Difficulty Enjoying It
All were expressing a leisure ethic: a worldview in which a preference for free time and intrinsically motivated pursuits is accompanied by an understanding of how time can best be spent. To most people today, the notion of a leisure ethic will sound foreign, paradoxical, and indeed subversive, even though leisure is still commonly associated with the good life. More than any other society in the past, ours certainly has the technology and the wealth to furnish more people with greater freedo...07 FEB 2025 by ideonexus